Introduction This chart contains the same ideas as the original guide but phrased more moderately with an emphasis on tendencies, hence, Selfish-ers, Fairishers, Otherish-ers This expands the range to include: SELFISHIANS, Selfishers, Fairishers, Otherishers, OTHERISHites with the original guide terminology reserved for the extremists, those for whom the word "tendencies" would be a euphemistic.
We each live in a world comprised of ourselves, others and the relations between ourselves and others. In those relations,
"Reds" tend to favor themselves over others. "Selfishers"	"Blues" tend to favor others over themselves. "Otherishers"
"Greens" tend to favor neither themselves nor others, but rather their mutually beneficial relations. "Fairishers"

Priorities
"me, myself and I-ish"; self-centered; put themselves first.	"you-yourself and you-ish"; other oriented; put themselves last.
"us, ourselves and we-ish"; relations oriented; "we're in this together.

Reason for Living
"live" for themselves; use time and energy on themselves; perceive, feel, think and act mainly of and for themselves.	"live" for others; use time and energy on others; perceive, feel, think and act mainly of and for others.
use resources to develop relations; perceive, feel, think and act mainly of and for their relations.

Pleasure
please themselves at the expense of others.	please others at the expense of themselves.
share the pleasure and the expense.

Pain
sympathize with themselves "poor me" and would rather hurt others than suffer personally.	sympathize with others "poor you" and would rather suffer personally than hurt others.
empathize with each other, but realize that hurting is a part of life so whoever deserves the hurting ought to feel the pain.

Give and Take
shortchange others; take more than give; "mine-ish"; greedy; "Gimme, gimme, gimme, more, more, more."	shortchange self; give more than receive; "yours-ish"; overly generous; "Everything I have is yours including my identity."
interchange; are mutually "ours-ish"; mutually give and take; give and take their fairishares.

Use and Abuse
"I want what I want when I want it!!!"; mistreat and abuse others; inconsiderate; take advantage of a friend give heartache in return; underly grateful.	"You can have all I've got when you want it!!!!!"; allow themselves to be mistreated and abused; overly considerate; "do anything for a friend" receive heartache in return; overly grateful.
treat themselves and each other considerately and respectfully; are grateful and appreciative enough.

Deserving
believe they are entitled to the best so they vigorously protest adversity.	believe they are deserving of the worst so they silently accept suffering.
know that they get what they deserve, unless they don't deserve to.

Trust
tend to be too suspicious. "In me I trust."	tend to be too trusting. "In you I trust."
trust the trustworthy, "In us we trust." and distrust the distrustworthy.

Believing
believe themselves; doubt others.	believe others; doubt themselves .
believe the beliefworthy and doubt the doubtworthy.

Benefit of the Doubt
give themselves the benefit of the doubt as they try to get away with whatever they can.	give others the benefit of the doubt and will even allow them to "get away with murder".
lend each other the benefit of the doubt pending additional information.

Anger
feel angry, even when it's unjustified and express this anger aggressively towards others.	do not feel angry even when it's justified and suppress even their minimal anger inside.
feel justified anger express their justified anger assertively to protest and correct the injustice.

Guilt
do not feel guilty, even when it's justified; presume themselves innocent till proven innocenter.	feel guilty even when it's unjustified; presume self guilty till proven guiltier.
feel justified guilt; are innocent until proven guilty and no stalling allowed.

Regrets
"never guilty means no regrets"; make excuses instead of apologies.	"always guilty means full of regrets"; apologize too much.
learn from the regrets and do better next time; apologize when warrranted.

Justice
hold grudges; seek vengeance.	forgive others too readily, only to be mistreated once again.
forgive those who truly feel remorse for what they have done; seek justice.

Responsibility
accept the credit; "Thank you! Thank you!"; reject the blame; "It's all YOUR fault"	reject the credit; "It was nothing"; accept the blame; "It's all MY fault"
accept their fairishares of credit and blame and reject the rest. Thanks, but NO thanks!."

Praise and Criticism
give themselves unwarranted praise; give others unwarranted criticism.	give others unwarranted praise; give themselves unwarranted criticism.
give themselves and others merited praise and warranted criticism.

Long Term Effects
in the long term not only hurt others but also cheat themselves.	in the long term not only hurt others but also harm those they believe they are helping.
in the short and long term, help rather than harm themselves and others.

Knowing
are know-it-alls who know they are always right! Self-righteous!	are know-nothings who know they are always wrong! Self-wrongeous!
know what they know and what they don't know.

Standards
use two sets of standards. They are too easy (lenient) on themselves and too hard (harsh) with others.	use two sets of standards. are too hard (harsh) on themselves and too easy (lenient) with others.
apply the same single set of fairisher standards to both themselves and others. They favor their win-win relationships.

Expectations
expect too little of themselves and too much of others.	expect too much of themselves and too little of others.
expect the expectable of themselves and others.

Valuing
overvalue themselves and undervalue others.	undervalue themselves and overvalue others.
accurately appraise their relative values.

Self Images
believe that they are super special, even when they aren't; (superiority complex).	believe that they are super zeroooos, even when they aren't; (inferiority complex).
have realistic images of themselves and others; they are simply fairisher.

Esteeming
overesteem themselves and underesteem others.	overesteem others and underesteem themselves .
esteem themselves and others as merited.

Love
love themselves too much and others too little.	love others too much and themselves too little.
love themselves, others and especially their relations.

To become fairisher,
must become more aware of themselves and others; "Who are you? And who am I?" and must open their minds and hearts to themselves and each other.	must become more aware of themselves and others; " Who am I? And who are you?" and must open their minds and hearts to themselves and each other.
As and gradually balance the imbalances within themselves and with each other, they at times will find themselves in conflict. Neither faction can now dominate, but both still want their way.
and can gradually resolve conflicts through mutual understanding and fairish compromise.
are fairisher within, and fairisher with each other. They have healthier, happier and more harmonious relations within themselves and with each other.
So whether you are too red , or too blue , or too red and too blue , move towards the green and you'll become fairisher, too!